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Gillian Love
(662) 513-6380
Oxford, MS
Practice Areas
Addictions and Dependency, Childhood & Adolescence, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
National Certified Counselor

Haws Penny S Dr
(662) 234-0511
1002 Van Buren Ave
Oxford, MS
Anne Strand Dr Dr
(662) 234-2735
201 News Hill Cv
Oxford, MS
God Is Healing
(662) 380-0928
3616 Lyles Dr
Oxford, MS
Mrs. Phylandria Hudson
(601) 832-5825
1618 Pear Orchard Place
Jackson, MS
Credentials: LMSW
Licensed in Mississippi
6 Years of Experience
Problems Served
Aging, Behavioral Problems, Family Dysfunction, Parenting Issues, Anger Management
Populations Served
Disabled, Caregivers, Grandparents
Membership Organizations
Age Groups Served
Preschool (Under 6), Children (6-12), Adolescents (13-17)

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Susan Barclay
(662) 915-7174
University, MS
Practice Areas
Career Development, Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
National Certified Counselor

Matthew Campbell Phd
(662) 513-9936
2005 Harris Dr
Oxford, MS
Baptist Behavioral Health
(662) 513-1660
510 Azalea Dr
Oxford, MS
Marshall Cecilia M Dr/Psycholgst
(662) 236-2011
426 S Lamar Blvd
Oxford, MS
Charlotte M Rahaim
(601) 584-9540
Hattiesburg, MS
Practice Areas
Childhood & Adolescence, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
National Certified Counselor

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Make Love Last

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By Elizabeth Marglin

It’s hard to believe that after those lofty vows of marriage, a relationship could break up because of something as mundane as dishes left in the sink or the protocols of reading in bed. Yet even the most evolved relationships get snagged in the pettiest of disputes. And the current recession only makes things worse, warns Stephanie Coontz, marriage historian and author of Marriage, a History (Penguin Books, 2005). “During economic stress, we tend not to notice what’s going well and what our partner does that makes life easier. We only notice the irritations,” she says.

As the downbeat comments start to build up, you find yourselves going into negativity override, and the default mode of your interactions becomes the blame game. That’s when the fights start to escalate—within the situation-specific “you didn’t take out the trash” remark lurks the global “you never do your share” accusation. Harshness and contempt often incite regrettable words and actions. Each partner is then left alone to lick his or her wounds, no one dares revisit the turf voluntarily, and the feelings that had been ignited are left to smolder until the next blowout.

Monica and Ian Mathews of Madison, Wisconsin, who struggle frequently in their marriage and say they are on the verge of separating, are all too familiar with this scenario. “When we fight, we’re already stressed out, we are running out the door, and we haven’t been communicating for a while,” Monica says. “I’ll usually start with a not-so-skillful intro, and then Ian will get very quiet, which makes it worse.”
It’s a classic disaster pattern, the snowballing of defensiveness, criticism, and lack of communication, and it can suck the lifeblood out of a relationship. That’s the bad news. The good news is that unhappy couples can learn to emulate happy ones by adopting their simple strategies—praise, humor, and affection—even under duress.

John Gottman, a professor emeritus of psychology at the University of Washington who is renowned for his work on the “masters and disasters” of marriage, has developed a practical—in fact, quantifiable—approach to couples therapy. It applies pattern recognition to measuring and predicting marital stability or the likelihood of divorce. “What he found,” says Coontz, “is that it’s not the negative things that make or break a relationship. It’s the ratio of five positive acts of appreciation, love, and respect to every one negative occurrence.”

Doesn’t sound too hard, does it? But when was the last time you gave your significant other five compliments in a single day? You can probably remember effortlessly the last time you let rip at least one criticism (constructive, of course). It may sound a bit facile to believe that the secret to familial harmony is piling on the praise, but statistics are hard to dispute (see “The Numbers Game” on page 75). So we talked to a few experts and some of our own “master” and wannabe master couples (no dis...

Author: Elizabeth Marglin

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