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Are men really more fragile than women? Apparently so. Women have better survival rates at all ages and for all difficulties.

Jean Pollock
(802) 257-1047
Bennington, VT
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Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
Certifications
Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Dana Mann
(917) 202-3738
Bennington, VT
Practice Areas
Clinical Mental Health, Corrections/Offenders, Couples & Family, Rehabilitation, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
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Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Robert Pelosi
(802) 464-0543
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National Certified Counselor
Language Proficiencies
Italian

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(802) 655-0585
Winooski, VT
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Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
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National Certified Counselor

Cecil Hall
(802) 748-5670
Saint Johnsbury, VT
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Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
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National Certified Counselor

Marc Cohen
(802) 257-0319
Bennington, VT
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Clinical Mental Health, Couples & Family, Rehabilitation, Depression/Grief/Chronically or Terminally Ill
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Certified Clinical Mental Health Counselor, National Certified Counselor

Marie J Wargo
(413) 664-4600
North Adams, MA
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Addictions and Dependency, Clinical Mental Health, Eating Disorders, Couples & Family, Sexual Abuse Recovery
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National Certified Counselor

Treem, Ron Counselor
(802) 885-1904
56 Main Street
Springfield, VT
 
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(802) 747-3488
73 Center Street
Rutland, VT
 
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(802) 988-4690, (802) 505-1732
Bear Foot Farm, Bear Mountain Road
North Troy, VT
 

How Do You Mend a Broken Heart?

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By Charmian Christie

Sometimes melodramatic lyrics like, “Can’t live, if living is without you,” can come true. Researchers in the 1960s coined the phrase “the widower effect” because 17 percent of men die within a year of losing their wives. Now new evidence shows that absence, not just death, also takes a physical toll. A recent study published in the New England Journal of Medicine found seniors whose spouses were hospitalized suffered the same risk of death as those whose spouses died. Surprisingly, debilitating disorders like dementia increased the risk of death more than terminal conditions where the spouse was able to live a relatively normal life between treatments. University of Pennsylvania’s Paul Allison, PhD, coauthor of the study, speculates that since spouses contribute to our well-being, simply not having them around can harm our health. If this research is right, absence doesn’t make the heart grow fonder. It just might break it.

Social networks play such a critical role in our health that they can actually save lives. Felix Elwert, PhD, a researcher and sociologist from Harvard University, studied the differences in the widower effect between Caucasian and African-American couples aged 65 and older. In same-race marriages, Caucasians had a 15 to 20 percent increased risk of death when their spouses died, but African-American couples had none. “Zero. None,” says Elwert. Why the difference? The answer can be found by looking at mixed-race couples. Here the widower effect depends on the wife’s race. Husbands of Caucasian wives suffered the widower effect, but husbands of African-American wives didn’t. And these two groups have marked differences in extended family support. Only 20 percent of elderly Caucasian couples live with extended family while 40 percent of African-American couples do. “Wives on average are responsible for the kinship network and social life,” Elwert says. “Men married to African-American women benefited from her strong community ties.”

The weaker sex?
Are men really more fragile than women? Apparently so. Jane Potter, MD, president of the American Geriatrics Society, says, “Women have better survival rates at all ages and for all difficulties.” This is partially because senior men are often more dependent on their spouses for day-to-day care.

Men also tend to have fewer social networks than women and fewer close friendships, says Linnda Durré, PhD, a psychotherapist from Orlando, Florida. A man’s best friend is often his wife, while women typically have several close friends including their husbands. Durré says many men have also been conditioned not to talk about their feelings and may believe “therapy is for sissies.” Women, on the other hand, speak about their feelings. This leaves them more open to counseling and group sessions, where they reap the health benefits these social supports provide.

Coping with loss
But women don’t breeze through the loss of a spouse either. Both genders must cope...

Author: Charmian Christie

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